Problem Ghosts: How to Help Them In Order to Get Rid of the Ghost If by chance you still feel you have a negative spirit or energy in your home (a ghost that frightens you, is physically abusive or ghosts that are sexually perverse; enlightened, positive spirits or kind ghosts will not be bothersome, if one asks to not be bothered - and establishes the rules), try to handle negative entities & ghosts in the following manner. Remember, by helping a ghost, you will get rid of the ghost and the haunting should abate:
1)Remain unemotional and firm when dealing with a negative ghost, as they will feed off of your fear and make themselves stronger and more powerful (much of this is simply in our mind - I do not believe they have any power over us, except what we give them). Just know you are in control, and speak out loud for the ghost or spirit to leave; and that they are not welcome in your home. You have nothing to fear, for fear is created in the mind. Do this firmly, yet with compassion.
2)Tell the spirit or ghost to seek the light, and that its physical body has perished and it's time (and good) to leave this physical realm. Tell negative ghosts that they will see other spirits (loved ones) who are called to direct and guide them; and will be treated with love and forgiveness no matter what they've done. Ghosts need to know that they can be affecting others negatively, and that it is time for them to move on in life and unto peace, leaving concerns and suffering behind.
3)If the ghost is worried about punishment, tell him or her that there is no need to fear an eternal "hell." The person will be shown a review of their life so they can take the good with them and let go of past mistakes (errors in judgment). The person will always be treated with love and will be helped to move beyond any self-created guilt and condemnation, through forgiveness; especially forgiveness of themselves. Be very firm in letting them know it's good for them, and time for them to go. Keep telling them this until you feel they've gone to the light, the realm of spirit; this will help them move on. Light is not to be feared for it is love, peace and truth. Darkness is "lack of understanding" and negative - false. For more on getting ghosts to move on, pick up the book,Helping Ghosts.
Traditional Spiritual Cleansing - Ghost Smudging Using Sage If the spirit or ghost activity does not stop, or stops only for a while, then resumes, some ghost investigators claim a spiritual cleansing of the house may help ease the haunting for a while. This is the traditional practice of "smudging" a home to get rid of an unwanted ghost. However, we feel it will only temporarily slow the activity down, for the ghost needs to truly move on; holy water is also reported to have a temporary effect, its effectiveness possibly being linked to whether or not the person haunting the home (the ghost) is religious:
1)Crack a window in each room of your home and take a dried bundle of sage (available at most metaphysical stores) and "smudge" your home clearing out any negative or stagnant energies. Smudging is simply lighting the sage bundle, making sure you have a safe receptacle to catch the ashes in, and walking around your entire home allowing the smoke to circulate and cleanse the energy and space.
2)Being firm and unemotional, walk around each room of your home, while saying loudly and firmly, "This sage is cleansing out all negative energies and spirits... all negative energies and spirits must leave now through the windows and not return." Do this until you sense the negative energy has gone and the room's energy lightens (to a positive - look for peace) and then say, "In the name of God, this room is now cleansed." Know and sense this.
3)Remember not to worry about how you sound if you stumble on your words. The main thing is your intent, which is your faith. You have power and have nothing to fear. Your intentions are to rid the home of negative energies and spirits and they will know this, if they are there. Always work with your own energy from within your soul and incorporate this energy into the cleansing. Draw your divine power from within your innermost being.Read more on the idea of protection from ghosts:Ghost Fear
Always be firm, non-fearing, unemotional and deal with negative ghosts strongly, yet in love. You are always in control and are not powerless. Some people like to re-visit a cleansed house by going back into all of the rooms with a pleasant incense such as lavender while inviting all loving, protecting, positive spirits into the home. You may end the ritual by lighting a white candle and setting it on a table to burn for a bit to "seal" the ritual. We recommend first helping the ghost, then doing the cleansing, if you choose to do so.
Further Explanation of Our Position on Ghosts Versus Demons AtAngels & Ghosts, we don't believe in "demons" (although there are negative spirits, which are people out there in the spirit realm who seem to have remained the same negative people they were while on earth ), but we do believe in ghosts. Some ghosts will never communicate with you but appear to be residual energy left over from a former event (maybe traumatic) and somehow recorded onto the atmosphere of a location. These do not go away and do not react with the present day or people. True ghosts, however, are simply earth-bound spirits, that have decided to stay attached to the earth realm, rather than moving into the higher, spiritual realms. There are several reasons why this may occur - the most common is that some dis-embodied people (or ghosts) may just want to be recognized as still being alive. Speak to them; acknowledge the ghosts you suspect are trying to make contact with you. Treat them as human beings, for they are. Perhaps the idea of "getting rid of a ghost" is rude in that light.
It's possible that some ghosts might not understand that their physical body has perished; it depends upon the death. After all, the physical body isn't really who we all are anyway; all of us are spirits. And a ghost is a spirit who is temporarily "stuck" in the journey of life. Many times, ghosts may be afraid to move forward unto the light where a life review will occur, believing they may be punished (such as in an eternal hell, which is a man-created idea...hell is a state of mind; such as a person who has passed is often afraid to move on toward the light) for not being good enough while in the physical world. Or perhaps, they still enjoy the people and places here on earth and don't want to leave, preferring to remain close to those they know who are still in physical bodies. Some ghosts simply will not move on due to former addictions, attachments, earthly pleasures, or what they deem as "familiar." Ghosts can have unfinished concerns here on earth and may need help getting a message across to someone, or an item found that was hidden by them. Keep in mind that a few ghosts can be very negative; while other spirits may just be visiting and have positive feelings and even messages for us - e.g. loved ones, spirit guides and angels. Remain open-minded, trying to understand what the ghost may be trying to communicate with you. Maybe then, you can help the troubled spirit move forward in life and out of a self-created prison called Hell. Read: Spirit Rescue
This may sound shocking, but ghosts can affect the behavior of people. Some mistake this for demons, but it is really dis-embodied human spirits who, in a fashion, co-inhabit another's physical body. The idea of a ghost or ghosts within a person probably sounds goofy; so a better way to consider this idea would be to think of them as ghost attachments or influences with the person. Think about how we influence others' moods and behavior around us, and you'll get the idea. Ghosts that affect the behavior of the living oftentimes tend to be spirits addicted to earthly pleasures. Those who are easily possessed tend to be spiritually dead, with all life-focus being outwardly toward earthly pleasures. Alcoholics attract alcoholic ghosts; drug addicts attract former drug-addicted ghosts, etc. Marked signs are often said to be personality changes, addictions, depression, etc that some say originate from the affects of one or more attaching spirits. This is not to say that all addictions, depressions and mental illnesses are caused by "ghost possession." We recommend the book,The Unquiet Deadby Dr. Edith Fiore
Human Reaction to Ghosts: Get Rid of It...Now! Most people, when encountering a ghost, panic because the communication method is not normal; it's paranormal. But often, a ghost simply wants to be recognized as existing or in need of resolving unfinished business or wanting you to know that he or she is still alive before moving on to the light. Often, people are shocked to find out the ghost is someone they know and love! Perhaps, the ghost, a disembodied human being, really wants to deliver a message to someone before feeling released to move forward to the light unto peace, joy and love. So, try and understand the reason behind the haunting, first; then you might choose to co-exist by establishing a mutual understanding and setting boundaries with ghosts who wish to remain with you. For this reason, we recommend not fearing communication from the dead; for they are people.